I don't want to get too dramatic or anything but it seems like so much longer than just 6 months ago. And it isn't that a lot has happened since then. But then again it feels like a lot has happened.
Sometimes I feel like I have lived years worth of life since last July. I finally felt like I was able to breathe again and here I am... Waiting for tests. The exact place kind of I was this time last year.
My friend Danielle said it best: "I thought you were done with this thyroid cancer chapter of your life. And it just keeps going."
Yup.
And while it can be really depressing and overwhelming to think about, one of the hardest parts are the changes the past year has brought to my life. I am constantly struggling with feelings of guilt for the things I am not adequately doing.
I look down and notice my stomach is a little softer than it has been in a few years. I don't even want to think about how painful and impossible it would be to try and run for more than 15 seconds.
I find the clothes I bought after a lost a bunch of weight for the wedding are getting a little more snug.
Before the diet, I was constantly searching for the easiest meal that could be made rather than taking the time to make some healthy and delicious myself.
My laundry is seldom done. The bathrooms aren't cleaned enough. The floor doesn't get vacuumed as much as it should.
I do the best that I can at work, but constantly feel like I should be working more hours, with more focus, or at a quicker pace.
While some relationships have been strengthened through this process, I'd say more often than not my relationships have been negatively affected. It's partially because I don't just don't have the energy to devote to them and partially because things are just different now.
I can't do everything.
I need to remember that things are REALLY hard right now. For some reason, so many things are happening all at once. And I need to allow myself the opportunity to just kind of hunker down and take care of myself. If that means the house doesn't get clean, then it doesn't get clean. If that means I don't bring work home with me, then I shouldn't bring work home with me (extenuating circumstances excluded). And if that means sometimes I don't answer the phone or respond to texts/e-mails, then that is fine too.
Basically, I need to cut myself some slack and give myself a break. Even if other people don't think I should. Right now... I need it.
I love those words of wisdom quotes, but my favorite is what you said about allowing yourself the time to take care of yourself. If you do then I think that's the first step for everything else going the way you want it to. You know what you need!
ReplyDeleteI think if anyone needs an excuse to take it easy, you have it. Right now, just look out for yourself. That's the most important.
ReplyDeleteYes! Give yourself a break! You deserve it!
ReplyDeleteBe gentle with yourself, pretty girl.
ReplyDeleteI can't think of anyone who would tell you that you don't deserve it! And if they do, it's obviously not someone you want in your life. The good thing about time seeming like it's been so long and hasn't is that it hasn't! You aren't missing years of your life to this and hopefully won't. In the grand scheme of things, though it seems like forever, 6 months or a year isn't very long and if that's the time you need to ignore everything and take care of yourself, then it will help tremendously over the years that are to come. Now go relax!
ReplyDeleteOmg I could have typed some of those words especially about giving myself a break! Seriously U do need a break and I hope u take it!!!!
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